Sexual Health for the Safest Sex Possible
We get it. We are all adults who like to have fun. Safe fun that is.
There’s so many Dommes, companions and workers in Toronto that it makes sense to explore. Whether that’s trying to find that sweet spot of chemistry and pillow talk; or dinner dates, overnights and FMTY vetting is more your speed: we should be respectful of each other’s sexual health. So how do we keep it flirty while having each other’s safety in mind?
Protection. Now we all have individual boundaries with what acts are covered vs uncovered. However, using condoms, dental dams, and even internal condoms are effective ways to prevent STIs, bacterial infection and pregnancy. Using protection during penetrative, anal and oral sex. This is still important when using toys, and any instruments that would come in contact with body openings/body fluids, including blood. This is particularly important when considering kink and fetish equipment that might be shared, porous, or hard to clean. Some toys and tools should not be shared, like bloodied rope.
STI/STD testing regularly, especially if you have multiple partners. I know, you are always safe so why would you need to get tested? The protection can break, slip, fall off, have a hole, etc. An important part of STI testing is swabbing all the holes used for sexual activity. This includes the anus, genitals, and throat. Sexual contact with the aforementioned can include using toys, fingers, genitals, and more. Even if you do not have symptoms of an STI/STD it is wise to test regularly; as symptoms might not be seen or currently active for certain STIs.
Consistent and regular physical hygiene is also a part of maintaining proper sexual health and etiquette. As we move about our day bacteria, oil, dirt and dead skin accumulate and needs to be scrubbed off; as to not alter a partners PH balance. Finger and toe nails are best cut and the edges filed down to help limit unintentional cuts or bruises on or in your partner.
Oral upkeep and dentist visits. Cavities and other oral concerns can be transferred through saliva. Further, saliva with oder or bacteria particles can harm the delicate PH balance of genitals, causing bacterial infections. Ensuring you floss once a day, brush, mouthwash and tongue scrap twice a day makes a deeply noticeable difference in oral health.
A general healthy lifestyle. Now I do not expect an Olympic athlete level fitness. But a general ability to engage and a heart that can keep up with the speed chosen is important. Of course taking into consideration different disabilities and body restrictions of each person involved. Whatever speed you take is up to those involved in the moment!
Did this article make you think deeper about what goes into sexual health? Are there some things on the list you disagree with or would change? Let me know!
Ashley Siren 🧜🏾♀️
